What Facebook Needs
I’ve posted on this before but really didn’t fully explore the concept. Has to do with who is a friend and who isn’t. It came up because I was asked if I would have coffee with half the friends on my Facebook.
To which I replied – there isn’t one of those people that I would leave stranded on the side of the road in the snow with two flat tires.
I realize there may be a better barometer to determine who to accept as a friend or not. And truthfully, there aren’t that many people I WOULD leave stranded.
But the coffee question actually works pretty well, don’t you think?
Other things to consider:
Who’s buying?
Who gets to set the agenda?Â
Overall mood of person?
Are they are close talker? Loud talkers?
9 Responses to “What Facebook Needs”
My barometer is "Would I mind giving this person my personal information, such as cell phone number?" That might be a little skewed since I give my cell number to clients for business purposes. To turn the tables a little, I also consider, "Would I feel comfortable calling this person on their cell phone?" There is probably more to it if I got into the psychology of trust, etc.
I like your barometer, except that I don't drink coffee, unless it is early in the morning during deer or turkey season. I would be happy to join you for hot chocolate or tea though.
Well i was reading some notes. I came upon this note about coffee. I like your notes. I like your style of communications with people. I sense you love God and He has plans for you at Western Hills Baptist Church. I will not ask you about lunch or coffee. I always pay for the person that invite to lunch or coffee. I do not care who sets the agenda. My talent is to encourage and help people. Mood is very important but 30 minutes will not make or brake the day. Oh yes i like to talk,but i also listen very well. Keep up the solid preaching and God loves you and Barbara and David love you.
No problem about lunch. Take care of the flock and your family.
i once thought that "pruning" my friends' list was a good thing. but then i thought, "what if, by my facebook profile and just commonality (and the leading of the Holy Spirit, of course), that someone might become interested in a relationship with Christ. for me the question is not what barometer to use concerning friends, its a question of what standard should my content be judged by. i know christians who have questionable things on their profiles, whether in pictures or applications or quotes or even the things they're interested in. i try to the best of my ability to keep my profile clean. of course, the best way to do that without losing integrity is to match your private life with your public life. if you can't let it be seen in public, one should ask the question whether or not they should be doing it at all.
so, let the friends come. i don't plan on being a stumbling block.
i think it’s weird that what i write on facebook shows up here. weird in a creepy sort of way.
I understand the point that you are trying to make about living a transparent life. I almost agree. The transparency should not be based on public, ie. worldly, views, but on Christ's, and indeed God's, view. We should live life cognizant that it is transparent to God.
I believe that you are trying to point out that we should not be ashamed of anything that we do in our private lives. I also believe that there are aspects of our private lives that God does not desire us to expose to public view. I am sure that you are not advocating to wholesale exposure of your life to public observation, but defining what is acceptable in your private life by viewing it through the filter of what is acceptable for public exposure is missing the mark as well. The key here is that what we do and do not do in our lives should be guided by the conviction of God and not of our peers. That is the light that will shine through your life no matter what filter is applied to it.
right. no credit card numbers or anything here. just discriminate content: no zombies or killing things or unappropriate flair or posts or anything like that.
just trying not to be a stumbling block, not a glass house.
right. no credit card numbers or anything here. just discriminate content: no zombies or killing things or unappropriate flair or posts or anything like that.
just trying not to be a stumbling block, not a glass house.
Interesting twist in the conversation.
RL – I think you’re right in what we do is/should be guided by audience of One. As well learning to give as much grace as needed to those we either don’t get or offend us.
I’m not sure any of this helps with our Facebook friend classification guide.
probably not.