Archive for October, 2005
Maturity and stories
Concerning the spiritual discipline of encouragement…
This is a hard discipline for most of for two reasons.
1. Our personal stories – it’s full of disappointment, hurt, anger, abuse, and shame. How does one overcome that to BE an encourager for someone else?
2. Our immaturity – it takes someone with some level of maturity to see past the obvious failures and rough edges to what God is doing inside someone else. It’s easy to critique the shell, harder to see through it to where God works. Easier to question someone elses motives and intentions than to lifewalk with them through issues to get a glimpse of the working of the Holy.
Which obstacle is/has been harder for you to overcome?
Missions Month
November is Missions Month at Grace! I love it but it does present some challenges – like how to lead your LIFE Group through this month.
Here are a couple of ideas:
Here’s Life Inner City Boxes of Love – yesterday by the time I got to the top of the stairs, every one of the 150 boxes were gone! That doesn’t mean you can’t still do a few boxes as a LIFE Group.
From Jud Jones:
What is your Jerusalem, your Judea, your Samaria?
How and in what ways are you sharing Jesus in each of these?
From Chuck Eckerson:
This would be a great time for each LIFE Group to “adopt” one of the missionsaries Grace supports. Praying, writing letters of encouragement, finding ways to get what they need to them, and hosting them when they come to town. Teach the kids about their culture, food, and dress.
I’ll keep you posted as to more ideas as they come in…or better yet, leave them here in the comments!
UPDATE: Here is the preaching calendar for November.
David Goldmann, Nov 13th
Broadway Bridge Project
Gary Hutchinson, Nov 20th
A Life That Rocks Posts
Here are the posts, questions, and discussions for the entire “A Life That Rocks” series.
Inner Disciplines:
Prayer
Silence/Fasting
Marinate
Serve
Worship, Random Acts, More on Worship
Communal Disciplines:
Confession
Application & Accountability
Guidance
Encouragement, Questioning Evangelism
500th Post and a month off
What an anti-climatic 500th post…A Sunday afternoon with a splitting sinus headache.
I’m watching the Broncos completely destroy the Eagles.
And I’m realizing that the next time I preach is December 11th. Kinda weird, huh? The good news is that I’ll now have some opportunities to grab some face time with our LIFE Group leaders and coaches.
Questioning Encouragement
Who are some people who continually encourage you? Why do you think they do that?
Who are some people that you try to encourage?
Is it harder or easier for you to see past faults to potential? How come?
Which of the disciples (or women) do you most resonate with and their reactions to Jesus’ arrest?
I talked about the ‘dark places’ – ever had one of those times? Was the description accurate? What would you add?
What encouragment do you think Jesus is trying to communicate to you right now?
What makes that hard to hear?
Grant talked about the 2 obstacles to exercising the gift of encouragement – our personal stories and our maturity level. Which of the two do you struggle with most?
Does your faith need a ‘retro-fitting?’ Where or why?
Grant listed out some shifts – react to them….
When we look at how Jesus did discipleship, we see him make some value decisions that challenge us:
He chose transformational over educational,
interaction over instruction,
risk over caution,He left his followers with more questions than answers.
He expanded the understanding and practice of worship and education to include the experiential.Jesus chose authentic community over protective isolation.
He chose impacting and engaging the world around him over incubation and isolation.We see Jesus embrace authenticity and transparency over protecting his image.
Saturday Goals and other musings
1. Clean out garage…to use it actually for the cars.
2. Driving Range with Cooper.
3. Find movie that Amy and I both want to watch tonight.
FFL Update…
CBS League – tied for first place in my division. I like my team against the others in my division but don’t know if that will translate into a league title.
Yahoo League – 2nd place, most points in league, but 2 games behind. I’m 5-2, the leader is 7-0. Long season.
While we are at it
At first I thought it was a joke…but apparently – we’re dead serious. 
A lanyard for the iPod shuffle. Are we freakin’ serious?
If we are going to do stupid stuff like this – how about something useful…
a Christian X-box controller…
a LIVESTRONG band of many colors that shows the way to heaven…
downloadable hymn ringtones…
LIVING water waterbottles…
for the edgy – dangling cross earring…
for the redneck – “my truck is dirty but my soul is as white as snow” bumper sticker…
also for redneck – Get Right, or Get Left mudflaps…
The “Real” Andy Stanley??
This might be the greatest prank in my blogdom world, but it’s worth it if it is…
Remember Catalyst Conference I went to? And my 10 minutes with Andy Stanley?
“Andy” commented – and honestly – it sounds exactly like him. Inviting, funny, self-effacing, and disarmingly humble. And I think I’m going to take him up on the offer!
If it was you, Andy, thanks for the comment and the risks you take leading.
If it wasn’t…well…it’s still a pretty good comment.
Speaking at ABA
I’m speaking in an hour at Arkansas Baptist Academy all-school assembly. Middle schoolers and high schoolers…going to be fun. Below is what I’ll say.
What are your top 5 goals of your life?
Got your answers to those? Turn the person next to you and tell ‘em what they are.
Here were mine in high school:
- Get a degree….or two. However many would get my parents off my back.
- Decide on a career that I could make a living but have a lot of fun doing it.
- Find a hot wife.
- Travel the world.
- Have a kickin’ family that likes being around each other.
How many of you had a similar list? Now here is the kicker – I’m 36 and I’ve accomplished every one of my life goals. Pretty pathetic, huh?
Barna asked over 2000 Christian students – students who said they had a personal relationship with Jesus – in 2004 the same question. Here are the answers, raise your hand if one of your top 5 is mentioned.
- having a college degree (88%)
- having a comfortable lifestyle (83%)
- having one marriage partner for life (82%)
- having close personal friendships (84%)
- having good physical health (87%)
- having a clear purpose for living (77%)
- living with a high degree of integrity (71%)
That’s a pretty good list, isn’t it? There is nothing inherently evil on that list, is there? I don’t think so. But here is the rub…there is nothing exactly world changing about that list either. In Barna’s survey – maintaining a close personal relationship with Jesus didn’t even crack the top 7. So much for the God first, family second, church third paradigm, huh?
So, that’s the reason I’m here this morning. To warn you and to apologize to those of you who call Jesus the boss and leader of your life and ask forgiveness. I bought the lies that my leaders told me, then I repeated them as a youth pastor and as a friend. I have failed you. Miserably. I’ve sold you a lie and it’s time to come clean and repent.
I was lied to about the world out there. I was told it was evil and mean and it would hurt me and wound me. So I get into church work and guess what? It is evil, mean, it hurt me, and wounded me.
That isn’t the whole truth about the world…or the church for that matter.
It’s also full of people created in the image of a God they have never met and they don’t know how crazy He is about them. It’s full of people who care about poor people, homeless people, hurting people, and outsiders and the environment. Because they see value in those things – maybe more than those of us that follow Jesus. It’s full of wonder and amazement and glimpses of the Holy.
It’s also a hostage in a prison they can’t see, taste, touch, or smell.
I was lied to about how to deal with the world. I was told to isolate yourself, make yourself a fortress. Garbage in, garbage out, keep away from the unclean. I was told to be cautious and detached and serious. Because people who love Jesus are serious with people who don’t know Jesus.
If the world is in a prison – I know the only way out. It’s Jesus and my mission is to do jailbreaks all the time. And the only way they are going to know how crazy Jesus is about them is if I’m crazy about them. And love them. And dare to risk for their sakes.
I was lied to about the personality of Jesus. I was told he was safe, kind, and nice. And he played with lambs and had blonde hair and blue eyes. He’s not any of those things. He’s the guy that walked up in a room full of religious zealots and said – you guys are a bunch of sons of Satans. You look good on the outside, but the insides of you are dead, you stupid bunch of two faced liars.
Read the stories of him healing people – the blind man in John. Spits on the dirt enough to make two mud pies to cover the guys eyes – remember – he’s blind, not deaf. Then he says – go wash yourself off.
The woman at the well – Hey bring me your husband. I don’t have a husband. You’re right – and the man you are sleeping with now isn’t your husband either.
The man stood toe to toe with the most powerful army in the world and didn’t flinch. He was a monster leader, not a nice guy.
He was the most passionate (compassionate) person to ever walk the earth. Jesus said he looked at the city of Jerusalem and he was moved to tears – saying how he wanted to cover them as a mother hen covers her chicks. He’d see a wedding and join it. He’d enjoy long walks in the woods and wilderness. He was a homeless man, himself. Jesus would meet these people and love them. He would have long talks at night, at parties and dinners. He would speak truthfully and plainly and lovingly. He would break barriers of race and religion and traditions because he loved people.
I was lied to about how important I am. I was told I was precious in his sight. I was told that I mattered and I was the center of it all.
I caught myself repeating the phrases I heard all my life…“What is God’s will for MY life?� “What does God want ME to do?� with the emphasis on the ME and not a lot on GOD.
Here is the truth – my significance is in Christ and what He’s doing and the story he is writing. I’m significant in that I have an opportunity to join a revolution. I’m significant in that I’ve been invited to be a son of the King. I’m significant in that Jesus will use me to change the world….
but the story isn’t about me…or my goals or my dreams of a hot wife, multiple college degrees, cool job, or world travel.
It’s not about me being a consumer, but rather about me being consumed by Him. I’m not even a main character…I’m a bit actor and expendable. Significant – yes. Expendable – yes. Guess what? So are you.
Finally, I was lied to about how effective I could be…or not be. I was called the church of the future, young people, young adults, and youth. I’ve belittled my mind and focus with fog machines, lights, videos, loud music and pizza instead a mainline of Jesus in a dangerous place.
I’ve been insulted and did the insulting by saying that “you’re just kids, what possible impact could you have.� We were sold the “dream� of Evangelical America that has a house in the suburbs, 2.5 kids, a SUV and a mini-van, flat screen, home theatre, and a dog.
Instead of being a part of stories like Rachel Scott of Columbine high school, I was getting bored hearing the same testimony from every Christian professional athlete.
Instead of filling my mind with stories of revolutionaries who died telling others about Jesus in China, Iraq, and Tibet – I watched American Idol, the Christian version.
We’ve been lied to. And it’s time to come clean and deal with the truth.
Jesus took 11 teenagers and rocked the world. He put them in harm’s way, rebelled against the religious establishment, and did it with uneducated teenagers. He stood toe to toe with the most powerful army in the world – and overthrew a dictatorship without ever lifting a weapon.
He’s still leading a revolution, you know? He’s still about breaking down barriers and transforming people from the inside out. And I’m inviting you to join a revolution. Here in Little Rock.
Little Rock was named the nation’s most Evangelical City – a whopping 22% of our population claims to have a personal relationship with Jesus – by Barna. The same week the National Coalition for the Homeless and the National Mayors Office named Little Rock the nation’s meanest city to homeless people.
Our city also has the most racially divided school situation in the nation. 48% of white students in Little Rock attend a private school. Among blacks that number is 4%. 80% of the student population in Little Rock private schools are white. In 16 of the 50 public schools, only 10% are white. 75% of all private school attendees live west of Interstate 430.
What if we – right here – choose to be different? What if we were going to be like Jesus – by instead of withdrawing, we engaged and penetrated the culture? What if we choose to be the Church moveable, instead of the building?
What if we – the Church – began to see and engage the world differently – redemptively? What would happen? What if the body of Christ became a place where the spiritual misfit and seeker could fit in and get a taste of how crazy Jesus is? What if we – the body of Christ – were a place of refuge and grace, instead of judgment and blame finding?
What if? What if we became healers, instead of wounders? What if we – the body of Christ – brought healing and health to the country of Africa in our lifetime? What if we – the body of Christ – were a part of healing racism and homelessness in our city?
Living his love out is the God-given mission of the church. What if we – the body of Christ – actually tried it? What if?
I think there are a couple things we are going to have to do in order to join the revolution instead of staying in our comfortable religion.
Love God. Really love him. Not verbally or when grown-ups are watching. I mean love him. Hang out with him. I think we are going to have to stop seeing Jesus as an article of clothing that we put on and put off at our convenience and start seeing him as a belly button. In the middle of it all.
Recognize that other people exist. Sometimes it kills me to watch a new teenager show up at my church. Because the students at my church act just like most you…who? What? When? How? Clueless. It’s not mean-spirited. It’s just they honestly aren’t sure if anyone else exists in this world. We are pretty myopic with ourselves. We think that we are the main attraction in this movie called My Life.
Recognize that they are better than you. That’s the key. The whole point of servant leadership and the Good Samaritan and all of the law. Love God, love others.
It’s Jesus’ job to save people, the Spirit’s job to convict, and our job to love each other. I think our culture here in WLR, we like to take over the Spirit’s job to convict.
People will not listen or care about you until they know they are valued.
We are really quick to talk aren’t we? Everyone functions this way – lost or …found people. If I think you are out to get me or I’m a product that you are working – I’m blowing you off. If I know you love me and you value me, I listen to most anything.
Take some crazy risks for the Glory of God.
I hope you have some massive failures for God before you graduate from high school. Just to show you that God can recover and make cool stuff happen out your mistake.
(Brazil story)
Thank you for your attention this morning.
Heard in the Hallways of Grace Church
Certain Financial Guru who keeps the ship fluid: “Grant, where are your receipts?”
G: (With a stack of receipts, folded, matted, stained, stapled, and mangled.) “Here they are.”
CFG: “Are these all of them?”
G: “All that I could find.”
CFG: “Why can’t you keep track of your receipts? Just drop them in a folder and do them once a month.”
G: “Yeah – that’s what I thought to but those folders are hard to keep track of. Besides, it’s Renee’s fault. (My former youth pastor admin guru who left me for the high paying field of children’s ministry.) I haven’t been the same since she left, plus the plants are dieing.”
CFG: “Grant – you are losing money by not turning stuff in.”
G: “Yeah, don’t tell Amy. I’ll start turning them in one at a time. That’ll be better, right?”
CFG: “Just starting giving me your receipts. I’ll keep track of them!”
Well…that went well, don’t you think? It’s a wonder I’m employed at all, isn’t it?
Space for healing
A blogging friend wrote this last week and I’m just now getting to read it…
Parable of the 10 Virgins. How appropriate for me.
When it is dark, that is not the time to ‘do your own thing.’ Stay put and wait for the Bridegroom.
And that is where I am at. After a pretty good wounding last week, the best thing to do is stay put and wait for the Bridegroom to show up.
“Time heals all wounds” is a joke. It may anesthatize the wound for a season – but it doesn’t heal it.
So now comes the hard discipline of waiting…creating space and time for the Bridegroom to heal. Without any real preconcieved ideas as to what that healing might look like.
Thanks for the prayers and please continue to do so. Time to make some space.
This week’s sermon: Encouragment
Just to give you heads up of where I am going this week – the disciples response to Jesus’ crucifixion, then his to their betrayal and abandonment.
Ever thought about that? What did it feel like for Peter the first time he saw Jesus after his death? What about Thomas? What emotions were going through their mind?
Then Jesus – how did he respond?
Encouragment…the final discipline in the life that rocks journey.
I’ll throw down some questions later in the week.
Guidance…better late than never
Sorry for the delay/lateness of the post. Par for the course this week…
Anyway – guidance. It’s helping others listen to the voice of God. Interesting definition isn’t it?
Is that different than what you were thinking? How so?
Is it freeing or more burdensome to think that YOU don’t have to fix people?
In my life group last night, we look at Saul’s life – starting in 1 Samuel 12. It’s pretty fascinating. It’s worth the browse as a life group, walking through Saul’s life until chapter 28.
In 1 Samuel 28, a couple of things really pinged in me…
Saul’s consistent ‘half-obedience’ and ‘spin-doctoring.’ He’s got an excuse for every mistake and someone else to blame. Until it is too late. Do I do that? How? Who are my normal victims of blame?
Saul’s life is picture in the extremes of God – his wrath and his grace.
What is my witch of Endor that I run to when God is silent?
How do I normally listen to God?
What helps me in listening – do I internalize? Do I write? Talk out loud? Process with someone else?
What other disciplines cross-over and could help us in guidance?
How open am I to questions from other people when it comes to the decisions I make?
How much influence should other people have in my decisions?
What other questions/insights do you have?
Some much needed humor
This was found at ysmarko’s blog…a favorite read of mine…
I read somewhere that the average size youth group in the US is 21. The more places I go, and the more students that I meet, the more I am convinced that there are really only 21 different teenagers in the whole world. They just keep moving around from city to city. Here’s my breakdown.
1. Weird Home school Kid. I’m sorry, but I’ve been a youth pastor for 13+ years, and most home school kids are kind of strange.
2. Star Wars Freak Boy. This is the kid that dresses up and buys lightsabers off eBay.
3. Christian Band Groupie. They have lots of t-shirts, CD’s and autographed paraphernalia and strangely refer to members of the Newsboys by their first name.
4. Facial Hair Guy. This guy could be 12 or 18, but he’s got that scruffy patch of something occupying space on his chin. It doesn’t look very good.
5. Super spiritual girl. Sometimes known as “I’m dating Jesus� girl. She likes to read books like lady in waiting and usually closes meetings in prayer.
6. The IT specialist. He will have a promising corporate career or become an underground hacker. He illegally downloads things from the Internet for his youth pastor so his youth pastor doesn’t have to break the law.
7. The “I refuse to leave� individual. This person graduated from your ministry at least one year ago, but tricks himself into thinking of himself or herself as a chaperone so they can stick around. The will be in your youth service for some time.
8. Overdeveloped Middle School girl. That’s all I need to say about that one. This group of students did not exist when I was in middle school.
9. The Bible Scholar. This person likes talking about Calvinism and other topics. They are the first to look up verses when called for and like to share their deep thoughts.
10. The Christian School Only Person. Closely related to weird home school kid (see #1), this person will go to Christian elementary school, a private Christian high school and when it comes time to go to college, he will only consider Christian colleges. This person can make it through life without ever talking to a lost person.
11. Little Drummer Boy. AKA Rock Star. Very proud of their $150 acoustic guitar, they are experts at leading worship and being part of a youth praise band.
12. The Event Addict. This person keeps their youth group event t-shirts color coded in their closet. They show up at camps, ski trips, weekends, conferences and every other event known to man.
13. The hoochie. If unchecked, overdeveloped middle school girl may develop into hoochie. This girl rarely wears enough clothing.
14. Smothered by Mother. No matter where this person goes, they can’t do anything without checking in with their parents every few minutes. Their parents require extra information on every event and activity.
15. Middle School Cheerleader. Usually traveling in packs of three, these are very small girls, typically wearing braces. They show up to any event wearing cheerleading shorts.
16. The forwarder. This person will forward you at least four or five e-mails every week. Thanks to him or her, you’ll know about all the companies supported by Mormons. This person might be associated with the IT specialist (see #6)
17. The EO. EO’s only show up to your fun events. They don’t care about anything you have to say, but will surface several times a year. Due to the massive amount of events attended, they have amassed a large quantity of t-shirts, which they use as rags or to mow grass.
18. FBI Parent Agent. While this is not technically a student, this parent is always there watching your every move. They probably have a “Smothered by Mother� (see #14). They want to know who will be driving and will question your word choice in your messages. Even though they are not a teenager, go ahead and include them and count them, because they will always be around.
19. The Drama Queen. This girl is usually the center of attention and needs lots of counseling. They are always involved in a major event or scandal.
20. The Questioner. The questioner will ask you if they can read their poem at your next youth service. They may have a painting or a song that will really encourage everyone else. They want to lead worship even though they can’t really sing and lead a bible study, even though they don’t own a Bible.
21. The all American. These are your regular, everyday teenagers. They don’t fall into any particular category.
On Marko’s website – there are some really funny additions….you wanna add anymore?
Perspective
Thanks for the comments and emails. They mean a lot.
One of my favorites:
Jlo: Remember, “we are a paratroopers, we are supposed to be surrounded.”
So what gives? Obviously, I’m NOT going to unpack all the details here.
I’ll just process a little of what I think God is doing in me. Is He purifying me? Honing me? Giving me a taste of what it means to completely trust Him instead of just saying I completely trust Him? Possibly.
I do know – in the words of my brilliant brother-in-law – this didn’t surprise God. Which is both comforting and angering at the same time. (Another long post, huh?)
When will there be resolution? Philosophically speaking – never. Our moments of comfort and ease might just be the breathing space between the next adventure with Jesus. That’s not to say to feel guilty in the comfort times…enjoy them. Just can’t run the race, climb the mountain (or whatever metaphor you want to use) staying there.
Practically – not sure on that either. What is for certain is that the values I say I hold dear to – authenticity, trust, messiness, questions more than answers – are going to be tested to the fullest.
Pray for me
Long time no post in G’ land. Mainly because I’ve been in Dallas with my brother-in-law….Tom – you can get the jist of what we did on his blog.
But for all (both) my readers – I really need alot of prayer. Just really struggling right now.
In Dallas with Tom
Tom’s well chronicled back problems landed him in Dallas on short notice. So, we hurriedly packed up the kids and headed to D-town to help out with the recovery.
Funny thing happened on the way to the Doctor – he said there was another doctor who Tom should have the surgery from…in Vienna…125 miles from Budapest.
Errr, well…since we are here…might as well enjoy the time.
So today – we went all out…
Visited Tom and Amy’s high school alma mater…Trinity Christian Academy. (I save my snide academy remarks for another time…although they have a sweet new football field. That same artificial turf that the Colts have.)
Went to the mall and ate while we watched people ice skate.
Ate great mexican food.
Watched the NLCS…watching the NLCS.
Good to be with my bro.
Drug Dealers and Pastors
Drug Dealers & Pastors…
I got to thinking about how in the world could I relate to a drug dealer. (Don’t ask why)
At first blush – you’d think these two…er, professions would be worlds apart. I’m not sure about that anymore…consider…
Both often find themselves lieing to impress their clients…
Both are selling something that could kill you…
Eventually you are going to be shot at by someone that one time you called friend…
You’re only as good as your last ‘product’…
It’s addicting…
Hours are terrible…
Both are illegal – depending on your location…
What started out as wanting to provide a service often ends up being a search for more power and significance…
Mike Shula Bonehead Coaching Move of the Week
In the ongoing mystery as to how the H-E-Double Hockey Sticks is Alabama 6-0, yet another chapter of “What the heck was Mike Shula thinking?”
First the Arkansas game…
Then the Florida game…
Today – I give you the Ole Miss game…
It’s one of the cardinal rules of SEC Football – if you take the opening drive down the field (75 yards) on a tough defense on the road – you get points. Bottom line. You don’t give the home team a chance to get fired up.
4th and 1 on the 5 at Ole Miss. You take the points…kick it off…put your defense on the field and force the other team to play catch up all day.
Not Shula. “Let’s go for it.”
Now – to give him some credit – Alabama does have the number 6 defense in the nation. But, Mike…on the road? After a bye? Early game? He’s the nicest guy in America…eventually it’s gonna cost ‘Bama a game.
His mistake was overshadowed by Ole Miss’s coaching staff. I’ll never understand how an offense that has a 3rd and 1 on the 3 gets 2 DELAY OF GAME PENALTIES IN A ROW!!!
Thanks, Ole Miss.
Spike Lee…not so altruistic…
Here is the story that Spike Lee is going to make a movie about Katrina and the government’s failure in that disaster.
First of all, Spike. Glad you felt sorry for the victims of Katrina while you were in ITALY AT A FILM FESTIVAL!!! Are you back in the country yet?
Second of all, retire the “The US Government hates black people” sermon. I honestly believe it’s just code for “Come see my movie because I need the money.” Plus, it’s not a black thing. It’s a poor thing. Poverty and apathy.
Third of all, drop the freakin’ camera and pick up a shovel or chainsaw or box of food.
Fourth, you ‘finding out who to blame’ doesn’t help anything…except your pocketbook.
Lastly, if you are going to tell the story – be sure you tell the story of churches – black and white, rich and poor – doing what they can to bring hope and healing to this mess.
Bono, the Theologian
The provocative Bono: 
…if only we could be a bit more like Him, the world would be transformed. When I look at the Cross of Christ, what I see up there is all my s— and everybody else’s. So I ask myself a question a lot of people have asked: Who is this man? And was He who He said He was, or was He just a religious nut? And there it is, and that’s the question.
Another one of my favorite Bono quotes:
A third of the Earth’s population is incarcerated by poverty. It is, as they say, the drive of the Scriptures. Why isn’t it the drive of the churches?
And last but not least:
I think our age will be remembered for three things – the digital revolution, the war against terror, and what we did, or did not do to put out the fires in Africa. Some say we can’t afford to, I say we can’t afford not to.
Here is a commencement speech he gave to the University of Pennsylvania. Priceless.
Why the post on this? God’s stirring something in me…with this…about poverty…about how rich I am and how little I give. I want to move out of compassion, not out of duty.
Ms. Bobbi
I met with Ms. Bobbi today. She is, well, just in case she reads this – I’m not telling you her age. She – is in my mind – what the perfect grandmother to someone my age should be. She used to drive a BMW with 104,000 miles on it. Then she got a speeding ticket and a ‘little fender bender.’ She’s now sporting a Honda Accord. She’s adjusting to it.
She needed to talk about her Life Group. The “Leader” moved away and she wanted me to help her find the new leader.
“But before we talk about that, you know you we have someone in our group that is struggling with a sharp tongue? How can I help her work through that and still let her know that I love her? And someone else – we just prayed for her as her husband’s health is deteriorating. We are also praying for you Grant.”
For the next 10 minutes she talks about the people in her LIFE group like family. She loves them. And even at their age – she’s convinced that God is not through with them. “He’s still changing me.”
I must of lost all sense of self-awareness in those minutes. I catch myself with my mouth wide open.
GE: “I think I’ve found the perfect leader for your life group, Ms. Bobbi.”
“You have? This is great!”
G: “It’s you.”
“What? Oh no, no, no, no. You’ve completely misunderstood me, I can’t teach.”
G: “Great. Don’t teach.”
“Well, somebody has to bring a lesson.”
G: “How many lessons do ya’ll really get through?”
“We do pray alot. Maryann is really good at bringing a discussion.”
G: “Looks like we’ve got a team!”
“Well – then you can be our coach. I know you’re busy but we won’t be much trouble.”
G: “I’d love to be your coach. We’ll hook up once a month to check on each other and pray.”
I am so going to get so much more out of this than they are.
Mid-Week Blahs
I’m in the blahs….but never fear….here are the things that make me smile…
Batman Begins on DVD next Tuesday….I’m in 3rd place in both my fantasy football leagues…
my daughter thinks I’m the coolest dad in the world…
my brother-in-law is famous (sort of)…
Coop and Cam are loving school and loving their teachers…
Plus – the elders of Grace this week decided to send $10,000 to Life Church in Mandeville, LA.
So tomorrow will be better.
Application & Accountability
The original link for application.
The original link for accountability.
Now, for some crazy questions.
Why is application considered a communal discipline?
Where do you normally lean on accoutability – being or keeping?
What examples in scripture do you see?
Where in our culture do you see this? (Million Dollar Baby might be worth discussing!)
What’s the benefit?
What’s hard about accountability?
What are the barrieres to applying God’s word?
Why are we resistant to these disciplines?
I’ll write some more this week – but the sermon is going to camp in Mark 10 where Jesus has to have a remedial leadership lesson with his ‘life group.’